Hate and haters

There are haters around us in many forms. Sometimes we are able to identify them but sometimes we are not. But if we develop the mentality that haters are in fact our admirers, it would cause no harm. ‘Hating is the sincerest from of flattery “says a proverb. There are various reasons to hate a person and at times, haters do not have a reason at all to hate others. They do it just for the sake of hating others. But hating a certain name only gives them fame. Whether a person loves you or hates you, you are in their minds. But haters only hate the things that they can’t get and the people they can’t be. So, it is only an expression of adoration they have for you. In fact, when someone hates you, it gives a sense of motivation to achieve more in life and stand upright in front of them. Therefore, do not hate your haters. because its so simple theory .. 
There will be haters,
There will be Doubters,
There will be Non-Believers, and then ..
There will be you spreading love proving them Wrong.
My dears haters are just life's obstacles you have to go around them and keep moving.

Couragement

being courage doesn't mean you don't get afraid; we all afraid from something but it's means you don't let your worth fear stopping you from catching your dreams... "they says . "Do one thing everyday that scares you". indeed i agree with that because Some of our amazing moments in life come from doing things that scare us the most and i'm sure that taking risks takes practice. So, if we win.. we shall lead and if we lose we can guide others through our failure experiences.

Nationality

Nationality gives a sense of pride in any country and this is inborn. Nationality is essential for everyone and it is the conviction that this country is superior to all other countries because you were born in it. Nationality gives you the chance to prove your worth for the country.
we should ask not what your country can do for you ... ask what you can do for your country. But sometimes nationality or patriotism is so blinding that we fail to face the reality. Even if a wrong has been done, we continue to argue that it is right. But apart from patriotism, the other fields are universal as Johann Goethe once said “science and art belong to the whole world and the barriers of nationality vanish before them’.
Many leaders and great writers have said quotes on nationality but have advised to possess in refrained form.But what makes me wonder is ...!
If they are a good citizens why they immigrated to other countries and just leaving them nationalities behind ..!
I can answer that .. but i'll mix so many bad words with my bad mood, and i knew that i'll have many opportunities to change my mood later but i'll never get the opportunity to replace the words i ink or i spoke.. but at the end you can either run from oppression and your fear , or ... stand firm and face it. didn't you know that courage is not living without fear. Courage is being scared to death and doing the right thing anyway.

The cost of freedom

Freedom means to act or behave freely without any restrictions. Freedom incorporates the freedom to think, speak and move at your will, without being hampered by nay restrictions or limitations.
Being free, you are not enslaved and nobody can take you in custody. Everyone loves freedom and freedom is everyone’s birthright. Martin Luther had once remarked, “Change does not roll in on the wheels of inevitability, but comes through continuous struggle. And so we must straighten our backs and work for our freedom. A man can't ride you unless your back is bent.”
Indeed freedom should never be misused though. As a responsible individual of the society, all of us are responsible for our actions. I always repeat the words of Mohandas Gandhi, “Freedom is never dear at any price. It is the breath of life. What would a man not pay for living?”
My dears freedom is something that infuses life in our spirits and should be made the maximum use of because we have a choice to Live or die... Every breath is a choice. Every minute is a choice. To be or not to be,
once i read that "every human has four endowments...
self awareness, conscience, independent will and creative imagination... These God endowments give us the ultimate human freedom.. It's the power .. to choose, to respond, and to change". in fact we can accept that words unless we understand that If we have the freedom to choose our actions, we don't have the freedom to choose the consequences of it.
now we must choose; we can have peace. or we can have freedom. but don't ever count on having both at once because it is a package deal ... with it....  comes responsibilities and consequences and always remember that the cost of freedom is always high.

broken hearts

"I don't regret loving you... I don't regret trusting you... I regret giving you the power to hurt me in a way that I'll never be able to be find again"
A broken heart is the result of a broken relationship or marriage that fails to stand the test of time. Any relationship or marriage demands a lot of emotional investment and decisions which are taken with the heart rather than the mind. A broken heart leads to several deep wounds in the heart which take a lot of time to heal. Time is nevertheless a great healer. The wounds which are inflicted on a broken heart get healed with time but they leave behind indelible scars and impression on the mind. To avoid the repercussions of a broken heart, avoid getting into relationships entirely or be a part of one rock-solid and steady relationship that can survive the test of time and bring bliss to the couple involved rather than causing grief or sadness.
i believe that; the worst feeling in the world is when you can't being in love with anyone else because your heart still belongs to the one who will broke it sooner or later. dears what hurts most about love is when you realize that things between the two of you are over. And that no matter what you do to make it go back, you just can't change things anymore. Because he has moved on and you haven't. but always remember If the one you love breaks your heart, remember there is that special person in the world that will come along and mend it!

Hope is..

Hope is a rope that often swings you through life, 
an age old maxim, yet so true and prevalent in the present day context. When an opportunity is lost, one can at least suffice with the fact that there may well be another one knocking on our doorsteps in the near future. However, if hope is lost, one can be rest assured that it is pretty much the end of the road.
Lost hope usually precedes the death knell in nearly every battle. Perhaps, the most detrimental factor to a cause is lost hope. The conventional mantra for success is 'ask, believe and receive'. If the belief isn't there, then all the efforts are but in vain. Lost hope can seldom be regained and takes a lot of courage and determination to do so. That having said, if regained, hope becomes only stronger. Once we are able to regain that lost faith in our very own self, the road to success gets only smoother.

Shoo listen ... 

Self ego

Ego means a person’s sense of their own value and importance. Some people have a loud and vocal ego, which is very evident when you interact with them. On the other hand, some people have a subtle ego, which is latent in them and comes to the fore, when the need arises. You end up hurting someone’s ego when you belittle or berate them and make them feel inferior to you.
If we put an eye at our loneliness we will find that, everyone needs someone and everyone goes through something. Why lie to ourself and say we don't, to feel better. ego and pride can't hug us forever.
People will leave us because of that attitude, We should always follow our hearts not our ego didn't you know that compromise always says: Its better to change a little rather than to lose someone forever while ego says: It is always better to leave the one who wants to change you... The ego will always compel us to try to convince others we are right. But the question is.. does it matter..! Do we want to be right, or do we want to be happy..! Personally the very special part i like the most in my prayer, which every time my head touches the ground in prayer, I remember it is to teach me to put down self ego.

Our actions

We will have the rest of our life to remember, but what we have to remember often depends on our actions today, Our actions become habits, Our habits become character and character shapes our destiny and therefore, actions should be watched and monitored properly in order to decide on the course of our life. Our actions can be either good or bad but we should develop the mentality of accepting the responsibility for our bad actions and not take the credit for our achievements.
Our actions also have the capability of rectifying our mistakes as we all say actions speak more than words. I think right actions in the future are the best apologies for our bad actions in the past. Great Leaders must have this kind of quality as their actions are inspirational for others to learn and do great things in life... Therefore, we should act fast and don’t postpone things because the shortest answer to any question is their actions.

person with enough patience

Everyone needs someone and everyone goes through something. Why lie to ourself and say we don't,to feel better. ego and pride can't hug us anymore, Learning to trust again isn't really hard... it's finding a person with enough patience to teach you.

Without explanation

Those who don't trust us without explanation won't trust us even after the explanation.. trust ... can't be negotiated.

Trust

If you tell me the truth, I'm going to be mad, but I'll get over it. If you lie to me I'm never going to be able to trust you again. Your choice!

Trust is broken in a relationship when one person fails to stay loyal to the other person. Broken trust leads to deterioration of the relationship. It is hard to win back or repair trust once it is broken. Loyalty and faithfulness to the ones we love helps in nurturing solid relationships and in strengthening their foundation.
Broken trust really causes pain and suffering and the person whose trust gets broken often gets badly hurt and wounded. These wounds and the pain that they cause take a lot of time to heal.
One should stay loyal when in a relationship and should not break the trust of our beloved or our near and dear ones. Broken trust hurts and causes a lot of pain and trauma. 
The best thing is to turn over a new leaf and start afresh when someone breaks your trust and let the bygones be bygones. Analyzing what went wrong and how things can become normal will hurt you even more.. finally i always believe that as much as we've secrets sooner or later that secrets are going to lead us to lies, that lead to distrust, that also will lead us to the end of our relationships. So, don't keep secrets or don't get upset ... when it's over.

Cheating

"I think the only reason people hold onto memories so tight is because memories are the only things that don't change when everybody else does"
People change with time. Time is what changes people. Every year brings several changes since we have to adapt according to our surroundings and go with the flow of things. Some people change superficially in terms of their looks. You might be going for makeover or a complete transformation. You feel like changing your wardrobe, working on your over all personality and appearance. Some people undergo drastic transformations. Other kind of changes comes internally, related to our qualities. Some people become proud and arrogant once they acquire some name and fame. They start looking down upon their subordinates. they say that time and money has shown some negative influence on such people... But i say as different as we are as colors .. so much differences but when you have all the pens .. after taking the lesson .. you can complete the paint .. it's the art of living.. My dears our world full of honesty humans and if you still can't meet on of they .. be one... because cheating comes in various forms nowadays, to that of wife by a man or, to a friend to thy neighbor. In all probability, cheating has become an act of justification because those who cheat have at least one reason to justify their action. Most of us still talking about cheating to reveal that these persons do not repent for their actions but rather try to shift the blame on others. This is more prevailing in couples. But fundamentally, we see that the lack of trust is the main reason for cheating and if mutual love or respect is built on trust and respect for others, there would be no scope for cheating. Anyhow, send these words on cheating to your near and dear ones to draw lessons from them. Cheating is a part of a game that is played by two people and one who cheats is only a temporary winner.

Secrets of life

Within each one of us ... the power to do anything exists ... but with confidence and inspiration, we unlock the possibilities,
Inspiration is ...something or someone who inspires us to strive for something spectacular. Inspiration is needed to bring out the best in oneself. Genius involves majority of perspiration, dedication and hardcore efforts while a small credit always goes to inspiration. Anyone or anything in your vicinity can inspire you to work for achievement and give your heart and soul to it. When we are facing hardships, any inspiring force gives us the momentum to turn the tide in our favor...
My dears anybody can be an inspiration to others even by refusing to give up. Who knows what someone else can achieve because we never gave up and in turn .. inspired them not to give up.
So what about confidence..
In my humble opinion confidence is nothing but sheer belief in your abilities or credentials. Confidence is the hallmark of any successful person, who makes it big in life. Confidence drives you to achieve and realize your dreams and ambitions. It makes you feel motivated and inspired. Confidence is one feeling that makes you feel that even the sky is not the limit. It is extremely vital to be confident about yourself. Confidence makes you positive about your chances of realizing any goal successfully. It is associated with an optimist generally, someone who looks a half-filled glass of water as half full rather than half empty.
Having confidence in who you are and your appearance is what makes you desirable... Just remember that; much pride attracts more haters and brings less friends to your life,

Relationships

There is something we must make certain we do while we still can is to spend time with the ones we love because there is going to be a point in time in which they will be gone from your life, or you will be gone from theirs, and living with the regret of not being the person that you wanted to be for them is a hard thing to live with.
Life is all about the relationships we build with the people that we love, and the blessings that we leave for them when we willingly or are forced to separate from them. Make time in your life for those who are most important to you. Let them see you as who you want to be remembered as, and try your hardest to work on your personal relationships with them instead of things that wont matter when you are gone. now remember, it's difficult to wait for something you want .. indeed, but it's more difficult to regret . Furthermore, Trials are not reasons to give up on our relationships, but a challenge to improve our lives. It is not an excuse to back out, it is an inspiration to move forward and learning how to share our life with others..

Weapons

Weapons are arms or tools that are used for inflicting some harm or damage on human beings. Weapons are used in warfare to cause wholesale destruction. Weapons can inflict both mental and physical damage on human beings. Weapons serve a variety of purpose as they can be used for hunting, fighting, defense, waging a war, preserving law and order. Disarmament is the practice which disapproves the use of weapons. Weapons should be used for constructive purposes rather than destructive purposes. Weapons are misused by terrorist groups at times, to wage a war uselessly. Such wars cause great destruction and loss of life and property.
We'd believe that; Weapons are never a killer, it is a tool in the killer's hands .

Attitude

“Attitude is little thing that makes a big difference” ...
men use the word 'friendship' to start love, Women use the word 'friendship' to end it... same word, different attitude. I remember Winston Churchill once said . 
"When we have a difference of opinion with others and get into a conflict, it either leads to having a positive or negative effect on the relationship". 
Yes surly your positive attitude gives a positive result whereas the negative, gives a negative result. A positive attitude gives the confidence of achieving anything and removes the doubt and lethargy.
If you ask how this can be done rather than whether this can be done, it is positive attitude. Evidently, a positive attitude towards life determines the life’s attitude towards us. This small attitude makes all the difference in life. A positive attitude has the capacity to create miracles and can cure diseases even the wonder drugs cannot. 
At the end.. You should know that; two things define you..!
your attitude when you are at your worst and 
your attitude when you are at your best..

listening

Leaders with a strong outward focus are not only good listeners but also good questioners... that was my inspiration to discus listening ..
Listening is the process when you give attention to a sound. When one makes a process to hear something, it means he or she is making an effort to listen. When you listen to something, you must be all ears and stay focused to understand whatever you were hearing. One must be a patient listener. Listening to someone with patience and concentration is not somebodies cup of tea. Active listening is a means of communication to understand, interpret and evaluate what he or she hears. Active listening helps in fostering understanding, reducing conflicts and strengthening cooperation.

Our Dreams

Everyone has wishes and goals for life. Often, these goals are expressed in dreams. For many famous and successful people, dreams provide the inspiration to make and attain goals in life, but to someone like me and you it takes a lot of courage to show your dreams to someone else... and if you share your dearm with someone then you should know that; Two people don't fall in love or even got married because they sleep in the same bed, but because they share the same dreams.
Surly as a matter of fact we knew that, Every step towards our dream today is a step away from our regret tomorrow. Now let me show you how it could ... To turn your dreams into reality, all your resources, efforts and concentration should be aligned in the same direction.,, Then turn your "Can't" to Can... and turn your "Dreams" into Plans..

Wanting us to remain close

Many people have touched the edges of my life... coming and going, scarcely leaving an impression. But you're an uncommon person, someone who has made a difference in my life. So it's not surprising that I find myself thinking of how special you are... and wanting us always to remain close.

Change the world

We can only change the world if we are crazy or exceptionally ambitious enough to believe we can do it.. We often hear of important gatherings of the "great and the good."
Sadly the great leaders have not often been good. But the good leaders have learned that it is better to be good than to be great to they communities.
Rare is the leader in this life who is both great and good in his actions and his vision. because vision without action is merely a fake politician dream and action without vision just passes the time to full of they account banks with money, ِand hands are full of blood . deliberate vision with good action can change the world for every human been .. everyone of us is born with unlimited potential, we have the ability and intelligence to make the impossible possible. and no matter how weak we think we are, we all have the power to turn our dreams into reality.
As i used to say to my little kids great and good unity exists only when we accept the fact that.. "one for all and all for one, And as much as we'll live .. we'd never give up on what we really want to do because the persons with big dreams is more powerful than one with all the facts".