Why are we being hard on ourselves?

We are humans and we do want the best life we can possibly create, but to what cost. This perfectionist drive we start in one area of our life will eventually bleed over to all areas of our life. We start to get frustrated and critical on ourselves. It does not mean we don’t have to give our best in all areas of our life, but we don’t have to be so hard on ourselves when we have temporary setbacks. Temporary setbacks or some might call them failures are actually a good thing. Failures help us expand our creativity and help us learn and grow. If we learn from our failures we are actually bettering our self for the successes. It is ok to fail and imperative we use all failure as learning lessons.

What does it mean to not be perfect?

We have all done this at one point in our life, having that drive to be perfect. At times it means we push ourselves through obstacles to become successful at what we are driving for. We could be driving for anything; career, personal life gain, sports… It does not matter what it is but the process is the same. Each and every one of us wants to be the best at something in our life and that requires complete dedication, drive and desire.

There is a fine line somewhere in the sand where we take this drive from a healthy standpoint to an unhealthy one. We all need to find where that line is we have drawn for ourselves. This line becomes obvious when everything turns into a competition or we start feeling like we are failing in other areas in our life and get frustrated. If feeling frustrated all the time, maybe it’s time to look at the concept of trying to be perfect in all areas of our life.

Take responsibility

If a person doesn’t want to take responsibility for the consequences of their actions, they may try to blame others. Don’t accept blame or try to fix things for them when you’ve done nothing wrong. They need to learn that if they want different outcomes, they will have to make different choices. I learned this the hard way. When they don't care, we should stop expecting them to. In some situations and for some people there is no hope, so stop beating our mind and our heart against the wall.
When times are tough, I remind myrself that no pain comes without a purpose. Move on from what hurt me deeply, but never forget what it taught me at first place. Just because we’re struggling doesn’t mean we’re failing. Every great success requires some type of worthy struggle to get there. and surely good things take time. So i used to remain patient and staying positive. Everything is going to come together; maybe not immediately, but eventually

I need you to love me a little louder today.

 Marriage wisdom teaches us to focus on the future, not continue to bring up the past. True forgiveness doesn't focus on the past but loves today and looks to tomorrow with hope. I really bet you can't guess who's lonely and missing you today.. I'm trying to stay busy... but you are my every thought.. I love you so much and waiting you to love me a little louder today.

Intruders

When did we as a society start becoming so overly sensitive? The harder we try not to offend or intrude, the more we isolate each other as a society. 

Dear death

Death is not to be feared, we begin the process of dying the moment we are born. It is simply another door that opens to another life... those who fear death have put too much importance on this "experience" that was only meant to teach us - Life here on earth is but a school and the graduation is the death of this experience... you are not this body, you are a spiritual being which exist on a non-physical level and death of the body simply means you are going HOME.

Don't push me!!

There is no greater than bearing an untold story inside of you. Everyone has a voice, I just need to find it and the courage to use it. One day I will have the courage to tell others how you have treated me. Trust is such a very fragile thing. When it has been broken time and time again...it's a little hard to be strong enough to believe that you can count on someone.

Kindness

One kind word may change someone's entire day, but it's better to keep silent than to tell others what you feel because it hurts badly when you come to know that they can hear you clearly but can not understand.

Be the change you want to see

Demonstrate a good example yourself, delegate tasks appropriately, involve and empower others to act for themselves and invest their own ideas and feelings into the workings of the group. Expect the best from those around you, and express your belief in their potential and ability to succeed. Give them meaningful tasks to grow from, not just busy work. Help them to see how their participation and contribution counts to make a positive difference. "Be the change you want to see in the world."

You .... are mortal

When you kneel, Kneel on both knees.
When you bow, Bow low from the waist
When you love, Love to death. And 
when your heart gets broken, 
Let the pain consume you to ashes and let the wind blow it away.
Re-invent yourself
Rise up on your feet
And start living again.Proudly, with your head high.
You are a human being, 
You’re not flawless
You will do onto others
And they will do onto you... Its how life is .. A chain of event, happenings and decisions. Don’t lose your identity be known for whom you are. Keep on seeking
Life is a journey, Try not to lose your humanity, If you lose it, you lose yourself.
And you die inside.
The journey stops when you pass on.
The journey never ends if you don’t’ lose your soul.
Be merciful and kind
Live and let live
Die for those who deserve living
Cry… Cry…. Cry like a child
Paint your face with mud
And scream like a mad person
Lick your wounds and let them bleed clean let the scar tissues remind you of the lost battles, Don’t feel sorry for yourself cuz you are what you made yourself.
Don’t  ever hate yourself, have the courage to live... dear anyone can die..
And when the angels comes lie down and let your soul go peacefully and let them kill you mercifully... nobody will be sad.. You are mortal 

Strength not a burning desire to win your goal, but a courage to try again every time you lose.

اي الاشخاص يكون..!

الانتظار مؤلم والنسيان مؤلم أيضا، لكن معرفة أيهما نختارهو أسوأ أنواع المعاناة ولكن وان كان النسيان نعمه فالذكريات هي هويتنا الأخرى التي نخفي حقيقتها عن الآخرين.. حتى أنّي استكيع ان اسال ... قل لي ماذا تتذكّر.. أقل لك من أنت ... جرّبوا هذه اللعبة تعرّفوا على أنفسكم من خلال سؤالكم: ماذا تتذكّرون بالضبط أيّة ذكريات نجت من النسيان خلال عبوركم متاهات العمر.. أيّ ذكريات لا تفارقكم كحياة تلك هي بالذات الذكريات التي تتحكّم في حياتكم... الان تخيل انسان لم يمنح هذه النعمه.. اي الاشخاص يكون..!

I Miss The Old, Happy Me

The worst feeling in the world is knowing you did the best you could and it still wasn't good enough, Sometimes we all need someone who believes in us just a little bit more than we do ourselves in order for us to become stronger but, as much as we grave in this life or another What we allow, is what will continue. You know..! Sometimes I miss The old, Happy Me but i believe that; from pain something will grow from all i'm going through. And it will be me..

B mine again...! ! !

The past flashes in front of your eyes. with all of my mistakes .. But for me, even thought i once broke your heart, I still love you.
When I'm all alone you are the only thing that think about. And here I am sitting and wishing, How bad I want you to be mine again...! ! !

Life is happening now

Happiness is a choice, not a result. Nothing will make us happy until we choose to be happy. No person will make us happy unless we decide to be happy. our happiness will not come to us It can only come from us.. We become a day dreamer but so afraid to take risks.. we spend all the day searching throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of our love, while If we can learn to love ourselves and all the flaws, we can love other people so much better. And that makes us so happy... life is happening now.. go find what you love and let it kill you softly.

Walk away

Sometimes walking away has nothing to do with our weaknesses even not because we want other's to feel our worth and value.... but we finally realize our own, the hardest part in walking away was the part when you realize no matter how slow we go... they will never run after us...

Terrorism begins in sick minds

I speak not for myself but for those without voice... those who have fought for their rights... their right to live in peace, their right to be treated with dignity, their right to equality of opportunity, their right to decide how and when freedom will be them direction.
Didn't we all know that; When we deny the poor and the vulnerable their own human dignity and capacity for freedom and choice, it becomes self-denial. It becomes a denial of both our collective and individual dignity, at all levels of society.
The fight for justice against corruption and The ambitions of the great powers countries is never easy. It never has been and never will be. It exacts a toll on our self, our families, our friends, and especially our children. In the end, I believe the price we pay is well worth holding on to our dignity... but please never turn your rights to a madness reasons to kill.

Beginning of the end

The further growth. 
Increase in natural resource consumption. 
Thermal emissions. 
global warming. 
Changes in the general atmosphere of the land and oceans. Cultures change depending on climate change 
Conflicts arising from the order to survival
Change in the global balance of forces
.... And the ending begin..

..., ...., Paris and so on...!

France, Paris
Along ago we used to reap what we saw now alas... Innocent peoples reaping what greed corrupt governments saw.

I see humans but not humanity all around..!

Flying dreams

The only way we will ever permanently take control the test of our life is to dig deep and fix the root problem... aren't we have a choice about how we take what happens to us in our life and whether or not we allow it to turn us. We can become consumed by hate, anger and darkness, or we're able to regain our humanity somehow, or come to terms with things and learn something about ourselves.  
All parents all over the world want their children to lead a better life than themselves, but first they need to believe that change is possible to meet in reality life.. second they need to teach them that in the end, life will keeping test them yet the lessons behing will appear.. personally I'm keeping push my sons to live once as a lion better than a life time hidden as sheep cos life will always be an operation which is done in a forward direction. Just always remind yourself that whenever flying dreams exists through your way that means you're doing the right thing with your life.

Love means not ever having to say you're sorry.

It's a really scary thing, having your dreams come true and seeing everything you ever wanted happening, getting the attention for it and then not knowing how to handle it properly so, If you're going to do something tonight that you'll be sorry for tomorrow morning, Please sleep late. You know no matter how many times we say we're sorry, somebody is not going to hear us at some point.

Internet curses

Does The new information technology... Internet and e-mail... have practically eliminated the physical costs of communications or it has been a boon and a curse for our humanity...?
We are all now connected by the Internet, like neurons in a giant brain. Today, dancers have so much more information and are much more mobile. Kids are traveling everywhere to go to summer programs, funding themselves with Kickstarter - putting their dreams on the Internet and seeing if they will pan out.
When the Internet first came into public use, it was hailed as a liberation from conformity, a floating world ruled by passion, creativity, innovation and freedom of information. When it was hijacked first by advertising and then by commerce, it seemed like it had been fully co-opted and brought into line with human greed and ambition... you knew even the crisis of democracy in the middle eastern countries is not the result of falling in love with another system. In Europe and America people who are disillusioned with democracy do not dream about the Chinese model or any other form of authoritarian rule. They do not dream about government that controls Internet and puts in prison those daring to disagree.
What I want to show is.. it's the right time to turn off your email; turn off your phone; disconnect from the Internet; figure out a way to set limits so you can concentrate when you need to, and disengage when you need to. Technology is a good servant but a bad master while I have one major problem with the Internet: It's full of liars... isn't.!

judgement day.

When the last teardrops falls, when birds stop sing anymore, when love, kind, loyal and honesty vanich from humans life dictionary,  when secretariat lost .. wait for our judgement day.

What meant to be..

We as a humans used to accept what is, letting go of what was and have faith of what will be.. no matter what once in our life someone hurt us, no matter if that someone took all we are and rip it into peaces... and they won't even watched where the peaces land but believe me .. through the breakdown we will learn something very important about ourselves ..
we will learn to trust our gut, it know what our head hasn't yet figured out .. 
we will learn to pay close attention to the people who don't clamp when you win.. 
we will learn that leadership is not a position or a title, it's good actions and examples.
We will learn that it's not the future that we're afraid of, it's repeating the past mistakes that make us anxious.. it might take a day, year even a lifetime to understand that ... what meant to be will always find its way.

about life..

If only I knew how's it going to be
If only when I try to fix things, they became better
If only I was certain of how others feel
And if only people believed what I say...
If I knew how to show what I really felt
If I knew how to make people understand
If I knew how to make them believe
If I knew how to make them happy
If making people happy doesn't leave me sad
If making them understand doesn't make me an ignorant
If making them believe doesn't make me a liar
And if letting them know how I feel doesn't leave me numb
Things would've never reached that point
I know I would be in a much happier place
No one would ever blame me for not caring
No one would blame me for not thinking
That's life ....You're never certain
You never know, you're never sure
You're not going to live that dream of yours
And life would never be "trouble free"
You have to live with what you have
You try to fix the broken glass
You try to collect the shattered pieces
You make the best of everyday
It's like a train that never stops
Keep going through life without pausing
Just live each day and throw it behind you
Don't look back or you'll break your neck !

My philosophy

He who works with his hands is a laborer; He who works with his hands and his brain is a craftsman; but a human who works with his hands and his brain and his heart is an artist .. yet be careful when you deal with that special kind of humans coz in the cold nights, all the blood rushes to your core to protect your heart, lungs, kidneys, liver, and brain. When you leave the water, the blood rushes back to your arms and legs, absorbs that freezing cold, and brings it back to the heart.. also true tears come from the heart and not from the brain..There is no need for temples, no need for complicated philosophies. My brain and my heart are my temples; my philosophy is kindness..

Disrespect

Self-respect is the fruit of discipline; the sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself and yes to being vanity. I'm not concerned with anyone to liking or disliking me... All I ask is that you respect me as a human being. And the greatest lesson that;  there would be times in our life when we have to choose between being loved from the other's and being respected…  I used to always pick being respected as an option to win. To win my life battle.. You should know that;  sometimes you need to step back a step..  Just to have a perfect place to win. 
We all have two strong strange animals inside,  one is kindly and good while the other is remaining so wild…  we shoud quite sure which one we feed.  Later it will shape our character.

Being married..!

When people get married because they think it's a long-time love affair, they'll be suffer from their lives then divorced very soon, because all love affairs end in disappointment to both of them. After all those years as a man hearing 'not kind enough, not rich enough,  not strong enough, not smart enough, not this enough, not that enough,' almost overnight I woke up one morning and thought, 'I'm enough. In fact, I love being married. It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life. 

Clarity spectacle

For me, the reason why people go to a mountaintop or go to the edge of the ocean,  even a trip to desert;  is to look at something larger than themselves. That feeling of awe, of going to lonelliness emptiness, it's all about feeling lost in something bigger than oneself. To me, that's the definition of clarity spectacle. So.. We'll live at the edge of the miraculous each time..  Awake up early just watch the dawn how is give birth to new day and be grateful. 

Second chance

Like everyone else in this world, I have had struggles. There's disappointment and obstacles in everybody's life. I feel like I was writing 'Second Chance' not just for myself, but also for the people who have struggled.. People do make mistakes and I think we should be punished. But we also should be forgiven and given the opportunity for a second chance. We are human beings.

The same end

I believe that life is hard. That we all are going to

walk through things that are hard and challenging, Up's and down's yet media, our governments curroption also advertising wants us to believe that it's all easy.... awake up .. we live a hard life then we die. Then they throw dirt in our face. Then the worms eat us. So please.. Be grateful it happens in that order and find our place.. never get busy dying and get busy living...! We all have the same beginning and the same end but what's shape our life.. is what've been happened in between.

Bla..bla... enemies ..!

What is our greatest enemy..!
I Wounder is it iron, Then I looked at the fire and found it can melt iron... is it fire..!
Then I looked at the water and I found it can extinguish the fire.. o.. is the water remain as our greater enemy...
Then I looked at the clouds and I found It holds water .. then maybe clouds are our greatest enimy ... after a while .. no it isn't. Maybe the air which is moving clouds to unexplored places.. no no it's the mountains but how it could be ..!
Then I looked at oneself and found ...i'm standing on the mountain of sand and I said ... we are the  reasons behind but wait ... I can't fight being asleep.. O alas, worry and sadness made me sleepless human.. 
Yap.. our greatest enemy was, is and will be our worry about tomorrow, our sadness from the past .. forgetting how to spend that very moment well.

Different but Safety

Every candle that gets lit in the dark room must feel a little rejection from the darkness around it, but the last thing I want from those who hold a different world view to me is to accept me.
Hold up a mirror and ask yourself what you are capable of doing, and what you really care about. Then take the initiative - don't wait for someone else to ask you to act. Know what you want to do, hold the thought firmly, and do every day what should be done, and every sunset will see you that much nearer to your goal.

Never quit.. it's so short.

If you live long enough, you'll make mistakes. But if you learn from them, you'll be a better person. It's how you handle adversity, not how it affects you. The main thing is never quit, never quit.
Life is not a problem to be solved, but an acknowledge for the wise, a game for the rich, a comedy for the fool, and so tragedy for the poor. Always remember that; with past we have nothing to do, nor with the future ... we live now.. and that very moment you should open your eyes, look within. Are you satisfied with the life you're living..?
sure into each life some rain must fall... but The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it. .. finally we're only here for a short visit. Don't hurry, don't worry... it's only one life ... and it's so fair enough.. if we lived it well and shared it so well.

Ms.R

Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself, and know that everything in life has purpose. There are no mistakes, no coincidences, all events are blessings given to us to learn from.
When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand.

Living through shadows

   

I’ve been sick for so long I don’t.. remember a time when I wasn’t.. o.. that's remind me with a 

question.. Do we need to spend time crawling alone through shadows to truly appreciate what it is to stand in the sun... maybe.. but after spending so much time standing in shadow, In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life ....
it goes on.

Graveyard sorrow

Death is the final destination of every man but only God determine timing of everything;
A time to be born and a time to die.
A time to be sorrow and a time to be happy.
A time to plant and a time to harvest.
A time to search and a time to quit searching.
A time of darkness and a time of light.
A time of trouble and a time of liberation.. and if anyone's asked me about sorrow and happiness ...! Which one I prefer the most in all of my entirely life.. o.. sure it's sorrow.. cus; many life lessons are learnt in moments of sorrow..

Never holdback your sorrow..!

You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back... now I'm convinced that material things can contribute a lot to making one's life pleasant, but, basically, if you do not have very good friends and relatives who matter to you, life will be really empty and sad and material things cease to be important. While nowdays people are so fearful about opening themselves up. All you want to do is to be able to connect with other people. When you connect with other people, you connect with something in yourself. It makes you feel happy. And yet it's so scary - it makes people feel vulnerable and unsafe.

Life is.. humble view.!

What if you gave someone a gift, and they neglected to thank you for it - would you be likely to give them another? Life is the same way. In order to attract more of the blessings that life has to offer, you must truly appreciate what you already have... in the deepest hole in my illness mind I think how far we go in life depends on our being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and strong. Because someday in our life we will have been all of these.

Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud.

do I fear of death... o sure no, personally I understood that the fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time so, Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain... To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices - today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it.
Start by doing what's necessary; then do what's possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible .... and always remember what I said. Nothing created to stay forever.

When it's rain

just after rain
when the water lies hesitant and pure on the roads and footpaths and a few cars still have their lights on
just after rain
when the street trees sweat the last clear drops from their leaves and the air is promise .... crammed and light and there are apparently more houses in the distant city center than before
just after rain
we breathe in deeply and effortlessly we enjoy watching where we put our feet
as we slowly back home
just after rain
we realize that.. when it's rain, every thing gets wet.. So it's the perfect time to hide our tears .. 
Just after rain..

Searching..!

My whole life I've been a seeker, searching for something... Something I even don know finally I realize that, 
One can spend too much of one's life locked in stuffy rooms seeking out obscure truths, searching, researching, until one is too old to enjoy life.  

Promises

whispering promises is easy to do but, many times they never.....  come true

..

Carrying the DNA of pain .. Washing away hurtful stains
Expressing unspeakable feelings .. Creating new channels of healing
Traveling through tunnels of tragedy .. Transporting tremendous tons of therapy
Rushing into a river of reformation .. Creating a deluge of consolation
Tearing down walls of internal imprisonment .. Building beautiful bridges of betterment
Seasoned with the salt of reality ... Rescued me from the claws of insanity
Flowing directly from the tear in my soul .. Anchoring my feet and making me whole
A tear
Much thanks to you my dear tear you are the reason I’m still here 

Human

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too:
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;
If you can dream and not make dreams your master;
If you can think and not make thoughts your aim
If all men count with you, but none too much:
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And which is more you'll be a Man

Discrimination

Why do you think you're better If your culture is not the same?
Yes, maybe you seem different But deep inside all are the same.
Why do they think they're better..!
If one is black and one is white, If one is man and one is woman.
They are the same, that is their right.
If one is  Muslim, Christian and one is Jew, All come from God, we are the same.
So, get to know all people, And show them what you think and do,
You'll see how others live their lives. When you like them, then they'll like you.
If one learns to understand and respect all points of view,
Then peace on Earth must surely come It is up to you. And you. And you.

Anger

He is in me, and he is in you 
He can make you do .. What he wants you to
He will make you  cry
He can make you wish to die
He can make you  .. Go insane
Anger